No sex toy has had a glow-up like the wand. Released in 1968 as a “body massager” and sold in department stores like Macy’s, people like legendary sex educator Betty Dodson were quick to discover a more…erotic use for them. Still, it would take decades for the wand to acknowledge its more salacious benefits and re-enter the market as a sex toy.
Even upon its inception, people were privy to the sexual benefits and versatility of the wand, but with innovative attachments having more deliberate intent, like the penis-specific Loop from Le Wand, this classic sex toy has effectively re-established itself as a universally revered wellness device for everyone, regardless of gender and genitalia.
But still, there’s no denying that there’s less knowledge around wand use for penises, so we’re taking care of that below.
How to stimulate the frenulum:
The frenulum is the most sensitive part of the penis. Not familiar with this nerve-dense pleasure zone? It’s that little v-shaped band of skin on the underside of the head of the penis. Its purpose is to help the foreskin smoothly contract over the glans.
If you’ve been circumcised, don’t fret, you can still explore the delicious nerve-endings of the frenulum since many still remain after circumcision.
It’s worth noting that the frenulum is very sensitive. So sensitive, in fact, that it’s often compared to the clitoris. As are the orgasms, which have been described as deeper, more intense, and fuller-body than your standard genital orgasm. It’s possible to experience an orgasm through frenulum stimulation alone, meaning people with erectile difficulty can still experience orgasm.
To stimulate the frenulum, simply place the head of your wand on the underside of the penis toward the glans. You may want to lubricate the underside of your penis to make for a slicker surface. Optting for a water-based lube since the head of the wand is silicone.
When there, turn the toy on, with the vibration at the lowest setting. Rest the wand there for a while and let the pleasure build as you familiarize yourself with the sensations.
As you feel more comfortable, increase the vibration intensity, explore different patterns, and run the wand along the entire underside of the shaft. Play around and discover what works best for you.
You will find that frenulum-based orgasms don’t require much active movement, the wand’s quick and rumbly vibrations do most of the work, which is great for lazy strokers. Easy, breezy, orgasm.
How to stimulate the testicles:
Testicles take a backseat to the shaft, both literally and figuratively. So let’s show the sack some overdue love, since they too boast many pleasurable nerve-endings.
To start, simply place the head of the wand on your scrotum, making sure you lube your sack since the scrotal skin is very thin. Because everybody responds differently to testicular stimulation (some will drool while others will recoil in horror), you’re going to want to start gently, and again, play around with intensities and patterns as you grow more comfortable.
Next, move the wand around and play with pressure. Trace the head of the wand along the raphe, the seam of skin running along the center of your scrotum, which is extra sensitive than the surrounding skin. Better yet, trace a figure eight around each testicle and across the raphe, so you get a little taste of everything in one swift motion.
Due to the size of the head, this may be easier to do with a smaller wand, like the Le Wand Petite.
How to stimulate the prostate:
Some people don’t know that wands are not created for internal use. However, some attachments are, like the Curve and Ripple, which provide fantastic internal anal and vaginal stimulation.
Both of these attachments are designed to stimulate the G-Spot (in vulva owners) and prostate (in penis owners). For reference, the latter is located roughly three inches inside the rectum, toward the belly button.
The prostate is colloquially referred to as the P-Spot, since stimulation and orgasm derived from the prostate and G-Spot are similar and deeply pleasurable. A fun fact about the prostate is orgasms can occur without ejaculation and often have shorter grace periods than genital orgasms. This means they can happen more frequently, sometimes one after another.
To stimulate the prostate, lubricate the Curve or Ripple attachment, use lots of water-based lube on both the toy and your bum, and slowly insert the toy inch by inch until it is all or most of the way in. This can take some time based on your experience level.
When it’s inserted and you’re comfortable, try locating the prostate. Stimulation of this gland is described at the beginning of an orgasm, and can feel as though it’s being milked, so seek that sensation when exploring.
When you think you’ve found it, play with your settings to find which sensations your prostate best responds to. Experiment with pressure and move the toy around a little. You can move around as well: Gyrate your hips and do some humping motions, and get down with your wand.
How to stimulate the prostate externally:
If you’re curious about the prostate but not comfortable being anally penetrated, there is another satisfying solution, because the prostate can be stimulated externally as well.
On your back with your legs raised, place the head of the wand on the middle of the perineum (or gooch) slightly toward the testicles. Since you’re stimulating externally, you will have to apply more pressure. From this position, you may also be stimulating the one-third of the penis that rests in your body for an entirely new kind of penile stimulation.
As you get more comfortable, you can run the wand along the entire length of the perineum and find the vibration intensity that’s best for you. Again, you’ll want to use lube, since the skin here is thin and can be hairy.
To help relax, use the wand to massage your thighs and butt cheeks, you can even press the head of the toy against your anus, tingling its many nerve-endings. Depending on the position you’re in, you might get a nice testicular massage as well.
How to give a vibrating blowjob:
You know what feels better than a blowjob? A vibrating blowjob. And you can make one happen with a wand by placing the head of the wand against your throat as you’re giving oral sex.
The vibrations from the wand are spread throughout your entire throat and mouth. You can also use your wand on the perineum or testicles while giving oral sex and really knock their socks off.
How to use the Loop attachment:
While the wand is more than proficient at providing penile stimulation alone, the Loop attachment is created specifically for the penis, hugging and pulling the shaft in close.
Since the Loop’s textured sleeve wraps around the entire penis, place it along the coronal ridge (the edge of the head of your penis) where it will also hit the frenulum. From there, move the toy up and down the shaft, and use plenty of lube so everything glides nice and smoothly.
How to hit all your erogenous zones:
Since the wand was introduced as a body massager, it makes perfect sense that you can use the wand on all your body parts, including your erogenous zones. Sexual pleasure doesn’t always have to include the genitals, you know, sometimes it can simply be shared intimacy between you and a partner. And let’s face it: few things are more intimate than a sensual massage.
Some of the more popular erogenous zones on the body include the neck, back, lower abdomen, inner thighs, feet, and nipples. If you want to create some mystery and anticipation, use the wand while your partner is blindfolded. To take things even further, use restraints as well.